How to be a Relationship Leader

"All I’ve ever done is look after this family and do my best and yet here I am lonely, sad and unappreciated".

I’ve seen and heard this time and again with clients both men and women.

And from this place of frustration and exhaustion, things only seem to get worse. Either arguments spiralling or a slow, cold, silent withdrawal. 

So often, this can lead to an expensive painful divorce where there’s a feeling of inevitability. After all you can’t live like this.

I completely agree, this is no way to live. 

But what if there was another way? A way that had not yet been considered? 

What if we could be happy and be right at the same time? 

What if instead of prioritising being “right” we prioritised being happy?

What if instead of prioritising being “right”, we prioritised having compassion for the fact that we’re human?

What if we became more curious about ourselves and about the perspective of our partner?

What if we put the effort into building ourselves up, replenishing our battery so that we could then tackle the relationship problems from a resourceful place, from a curious, compassionate and calm place?

What if we shifted the focus onto improving the relationship with ourselves so that we could then become more curious about the perspective of our partner? Understanding our beliefs, expectations, relationship blind spots.

When the relationship you have with yourself is rock-solid then you can handle anything. 

Your light is shining brightly and you KNOW your worth. Nothing anyone says or does makes you question your worth.

I asked a successful lawyer client one.. “What if your wife said you were a shit lawyer.. how would you react?”. His response was immediate “I’d laugh”. 

In that moment he understood why his reaction was so visceral when she criticised his success as a husband.

From this place of resourcefulness, compassion and strength you can handle anything. 

And you can lead your relationship and your life in a new direction.